e-harmony’s idea of my ideal mate (no mention of Carmella DeCesare at all!!!!)

Eddie’s Compatibility Profile Summary

No person can be fully described or defined by a few short sentences. However, here are several of the most important characteristics revealed by your eHarmony Compatibility Profile that you should keep in mind as you search for your ideal mate:

Some of your ideal mate’s strongest personality characteristics are:

    She tends to be very interested in understanding why things happen.

    She has a very strong intellect which she enjoys exercising.

    She generally does her best to be honest in all situations, even when it can be difficult.

    She tends to like to get things done when they need doing, although she may sometimes procrastinate.

Some important qualities that your ideal partner brings to the relationship are:

    She usually manages to avoid being irritable, even when she isn’t feeling her best.

    She has a good sense of humor.

    Even when things get bad, she can usually appreciate the good things life has to offer.

    She generally takes the time to stay in touch and maintain friendships.

Important goals and values for your ideal mate in a relationship are:

    Family ties are important to her.

    She likes spending time with family and relatives.

    Sharing parenting values and ideas is important to her.

    She occasionally enjoys spending time with children.

                 

                Social Orientation

                Social Orientation describes how much of your behavior is motivated by the desire to get along with and be liked by other people, as well as how much is driven by the desire to be seen as an effective problem solver and self sufficient. People with a strong External Orientation place a high value on communicating their thoughts and feelings with other people. People with a strong Internal Orientation place a high value on individual effectiveness, competence and autonomy The dimensions that we assess as part of your Social Orientation are Conflict Management, Character, Vitality and Security, Communication Style, Kindness and Autonomy.

                Based on your profile, you are most compatible with women who fit the following descriptions:

                  Kindness: You will do best with someone who will always be there for you. She is thoughtful, but she doesn’t smother you with attention. She won’t take you for granted, but she has her own life. She won’t try to revolve everything around you.

                  Communication: Your ideal companion is a woman who can express herself and also listen to others. Friends and family may describe her as the kind of person who isn’t overbearing and doesn’t talk too much. She’ll enjoy talking to you but won’t pry too deep if you’re not in the mood for conversation.

                Some additional details about your ideal mate:

                  Character: Your ideal mate is a woman who doesn’t pretend to be perfect. She does, however, make a sincere effort to relate to other people. She’s the type of person who’s nice but who is by no means a saint. She will appreciate your ability to get along with others but won’t expect you to always put the needs of others before your own.

                  Autonomy: You will be best matched with someone who wants to know all of the important things about your past. She’ll be equally interested in living in the present and planning a future. She won’t need to know every detail about your life or every thought that crosses your mind. She’s the kind of person who sees herself as part of a couple but still maintains her independence and identity.

                  Vitality and Security: You need a woman who is honest and reliable. She has a good understanding of what it takes to make a relationship work over the long haul. She wants to build a relationship that will last but doesn’t need you for constant support.

                  Conflict Resolution: You’ll be happiest with a woman who tries to avoid conflict altogether. When she does have a disagreement, she tries to keep the peace instead of adding fuel to the fire. Resolving the argument is generally more important to her than being right, but she will stand up for herself.

                       

                      Extraversion

                      The Extraversion scale assesses how you feel when you are around people. Extroverts are generally comfortable at the center of attention. They rarely feel a need for “alone time” and are almost always eager to meet new people. Introverts, on the other hand, avoid the spotlight when they can, approach many social gatherings with hesitation and relish time spent with good friends whom they know well. While most people exhibit a mix of Introvert and Extrovert qualities based on what kind of social situation they are in, people who are strongly Extroverted often place the largest value on having many friends and making new friends easily. In contrast, people who are strongly Introverted generally place the highest value on having a few very deep and meaningful friendships. The dimensions of your profile which are associated with Extraversion are Emotional Energy, Sociability, Adaptability, Humor, Romantic Passion and Dominance.

                      Based on your profile, you are most compatible with women who fit the following descriptions:

                        Humor: Your ideal mate can see the lighter side in most situations. She is generally able to find something funny in everyday situations, like uptight waiters or rebellious teenagers. She likes to be around people who make her laugh. Her friends see her as someone who has a good sense of humor but who can be serious when it’s necessary.

                        Romantic Passion: You will be happiest with a woman who appreciates romance but doesn’t expect it every day. She’s the kind of woman who may be affectionate in private but doesn’t necessarily enjoy sappy sentiments or public displays of affection. She wants to have a connection with her partner, but that can happen during a quiet dinner for two or while doing something active like taking a walk.

                      Some additional details about your ideal mate:

                        Adaptability: Your ideal mate likes to find new ways to deal with old challenges. She can think up creative solutions to a problem but doesn’t discount the tried-and-true answers. She’s the kind of person who can never seem to do something the same way twice. She can accept new approaches to problems when the old solutions have stopped working.

                        Emotional Energy: You’ll be happiest with a woman who’s outgoing and vivacious but doesn’t need to always be on the move. She’d generally rather do something than talk about it, whether it’s a new hobby or a project at work.

                        Dominance: You are best suited to someone who doesn’t take competition to extremes. She likes to win but doesn’t need to do so at all costs. She is aggressive when the situation warrants it – such as when vying for a promotion or playing tennis in front of a crowd – but can accept a loss with grace.

                        Sociability: You’ll be happiest with a woman who doesn’t go out of her way to meet new people. She’s the kind of person who will wait for others to introduce themselves to her. She tends to avoid large parties where she doesn’t know anyone. She’s not all that fond of mingling, instead preferring time spent with close friends.

                           

                          Openness

                          Openness refers to a person’s willingness to experience new and creative ideas. People who score low on Openness tend to place a high value on tradition and belonging to a group. People who score high on Openness tend to place a high value on imagination and individualism. Extreme scores on Openness also often distinguish between people who enjoy thinking in symbols and abstractions to people who prefer ideas which are clear and concrete. The dimensions of your profile that we consider as part of Openness are Artistic Passion, Curiosity and Intellect.

                          Based on your profile, you are most compatible with women who fit the following descriptions:

                            Curiosity: You will be best matched with a woman who is eager to learn about things that interest her. She likes to learn about the world by trying new things, like exotic foods or vacations. She is well-rounded and well-versed in subjects that intrigue her. But she doesn’t feel the need to know everything.

                            Intellect: Your ideal mate is smart, educated and knowledgeable. She is astute and has varied interests in subjects such as literature or languages. Other people see her as someone who’s looking for friends who are her equal in terms of intelligence or knowledge.

                            Artistic Passion: You are best suited to the kind of woman who can appreciate others’ creativity. She likes art galleries but probably doesn’t get to them very often. She likes things like literature and fine art but probably spends her spare time on other pursuits. It’s possible she would visit some of the world’s top museums while on vacation but then neglect the ones in her hometown.

                               

                              Physical Appearance

                              Physicality separates people who enjoy being physically energetic and active from those who are uncomfortable or dislike engaging in sports or strenuous activity. Some people push life to the limit, scaling mountains or competing in triathlons. People with a less demanding sense of Physicality enjoy looking at mountains more than climbing them. The dimensions of your profile which comprise the most important aspects of your Physicality are Appearance, Physical Energy and Sexual Passion.

                              Based on your profile, you are most compatible with women who fit the following descriptions:

                                Sexual Passion: Your ideal companion is looking for the surge of physical excitement that comes with falling in love. When she’s with her partner, she expects a physical connection that goes beyond compatible personalities and interests. Physical chemistry isn’t her only need, or even her main one, but she does want to feel a strong desire for her partner.

                                Physical Energy: You are best suited to someone who likes to stay active but also enjoys spending quiet time at home. She makes staying healthy and exercising a normal part of her life, but she also enjoys kicking back and relaxing when the time is right.

                                Appearance: You are most compatible with a woman who wants to look good but doesn’t obsess over it. She will appreciate the time and effort you put into your appearance and be happy with the end result. Ultimately, however, she is more concerned with who you are than what you look like.

                                   

                                  Goal Orientation

                                  Goal Orientation refers to the drive to plan for the future versus the urge to live in the moment. People who score low on Goal Orientation are generally spontaneous and free spirited. They are likely to act on their first impulse and worry about the consequences afterwards and place a high value on being clever and lucky. People who score high on Goal Orientation, on the other hand, are more driven to think about future consequences before acting, place a high value on being wise and cautious and like to always put their best foot forward. The dimensions of your profile that relate to your Goal Orientation are Industry, Ambition, Organization and Education.

                                  Based on your profile, you are most compatible with women who fit the following descriptions:

                                    Education: Your ideal mate is a woman who wants her partner to be her intellectual equal. She’s passionate about ideas, so she is looking for someone who is interested in discussing things like religion, politics, ethics or science. If a man is unable to converse intellectually, she generally loses interest.

                                    Ambition: You will be happiest with a woman who strives for success but won’t let it dominate her life. She generally does not judge herself by what others think, but she might sometimes measure her success by things like having the right car or a prestigious job. She thinks things like family and friends are more important than achievements.

                                  Some additional details about your ideal mate:

                                    Industry: You are most compatible with someone who works hard but avoids bringing too much stress and worry home. She likes to stay busy, but she doesn’t need to fill every moment of every day with some task or chore. She’s generally efficient, persistent and productive, but she doesn’t obsess over making lists of things to do or accomplish.

                                    Organization: Your ideal mate is the type of person who keeps her home neat and clean, without being obsessive about it. She likes to be structured at home, and make sure everything has its place. But she won’t look down on you if you kick off your shoes and don’t straighten them at the door. She’s good at creating a home that’s comfortable and welcoming, the perfect place to relax.

                                       

                                      Emotional Temperment

                                      While day-to-day events play a major role in our feelings, there are deep seated patterns of emotion that underlie our personality and stretch across the span of our lives. These patterns are considered your Emotional Temperament. People who score high on Emotional Temperament are generally upbeat about life, are slow to get upset in the face of minor setbacks or disappointments. People who score low on Emotional Temperament are more likely to experience feelings such as anxiety, anger and depression on a regular basis. The dimensions of your profile that comprise your Emotional Temperament are Mood Management, Self Concept, Emotional Status, Anger Management and Obstreperousness.

                                      Based on your profile, you are most compatible with women who fit the following descriptions:

                                        Mood Management: You are most compatible with someone who avoids taking bad moods out on others. She knows that everyone has their moody days, so she won’t overreact when you’re irritable. When she’s in a foul mood, she’ll usually make sure she doesn’t take it out on others.

                                        Emotional Status: You are best suited to a woman who sees the bright side of things more often than not. She has the occasional worry, but she’s generally confident that she can tackle any problem. Friends say she’s self-assured and hopeful. Like you, she is generally optimistic about the potential for future success.

                                      Some additional details about your ideal mate:

                                        Self Concept: Your ideal match is someone who is self-assured and agreeable. She believes in herself, so she is willing to take the occasional risk. She wants to fit in but doesn’t feel the need to change in order to do so. Her friends most likely describe her as someone who’s secure.

                                        Obstreperousness: Your ideal mate is someone who isn’t afraid to stand up for her opinions, but doesn’t always feel the need to do so. You need someone who has beliefs and confidence strong enough to match your own. However, you will not do well with someone who needs to dominate every conversation and win every argument. You will do best with someone who knows when to speak her mind, and when to just go along with the people around her.

                                        Anger Management: You will be happiest with a woman who controls her temper. Generally speaking, she has a long fuse. When she does get mad, she doesn’t take it out on others or blame them for her frustration.

                                           

                                          Values

                                          Many significant ingredients, like upbringing, family goals and spirituality combine to form a person’s values and beliefs. Whatever form they take, your values are one of the most powerful determinants of your behavior. Values are also play a large role in both who we feel comfortable being around, and who we find attractive. Dissimilarity in values generally causes discomfort or awkwardness in social situations. Although close friends, family and loved ones can often have one or two stark contrasts in their values, this is made possible by a greater number of shared values, backgrounds and experiences that provide a framework of comfort and similarity. When building an intimate relationship, establishing shared values early on is key to long term success. The dimensions that we consider as part of you Personal Values are Traditionalism, Spirituality, Family Goals and Altruism.

                                          Based on your profile, you are most compatible with women who fit the following descriptions:

                                            Family Background: Your ideal mate has a good relationship with her family, but it’s not perfect. They enjoy spending time together but do have occasional disagreements. She’s understands that family dynamics can work even when they’re not perfect.

                                            Traditionalism: Your ideal mate is a woman who has a strong moral compass. But she doesn’t necessarily believe that everything done in the name of church, country or family is correct. She has strong values but is also an independent thinker.

                                          Some additional details about your ideal mate:

                                            Spirituality: Your ideal mate is someone who is probably either involved in a religious community or who has an individualistic spiritual life. She’s the kind of person who finds herself drawn on occasion to faith communities. She might attend services but may not be an active member of a congregation.

                                            Family Goals: Your ideal mate shares you desires to start a new family and experience the joys of parenthood. She loves kids and expects that they will play a central role in her life.

                                            Altruism: Your ideal mate is the kind of person who cares about helping strangers but who might not spend a lot of her time doing so. She is someone who would help her friends if they asked her to. With encouragement, she might join efforts to help strangers, whether it’s a canned food drive or a charity fundraiser.

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