It is a beautiful day today. Especially driving down River Road in Salem. Sunny. 70’s. Top down on the Mustang. Nightwish playing on the radio. Life is pretty good. I decide to stop at a convenience store to get some protein before going to CrossFit in an hour. I’m a bit dehydrated and low on […]Read More I almost beat someone up today
Thor was the muscle of Asgard. When the gods needed their bouncer to come and trounce a troublesome giant, they looked to Thor. You need security. Basic needs. Before you do anything, you establish your patrol base, 360 security, and ensure your weapons are all faced out. Only then can you go to sleep (actually, after planning, maintenance, comms, R and S, egress routes, etc…). Before you can have arts and literature and other benefits of culture, you need safety.Read More Thor will smash your face in
Between eight and ten years ago I regularly went to therapy. I was struggling with two major forces at the time. The first was that my sense of normal, the horizon of my moral landscape, was still that of someone on a deployment. This is to say that in this context there is a survive […]Read More … or should I get a cup of coffee?
I might not have been ready for my car five years ago. But doing the work, meditating regularly, viewing difficulties as opportunities to develop my best self, realizing that I am not the center of the universe and that others have their own interests also, has helped prepare me for this car. Now I *can* drive my car, enjoying the experience, being energized by it, instead of the other way around.Read More Traffic is my yoga (or Marcus Aurelius in a Mustang)
“Veterans are the light at the tip of the candle, illuminating the way for the whole nation. If Veterans can achieve awareness, transformation, understanding, and peace, they can share with the rest of society the realities of war. And they can teach us how to make peace with ourselves and each other, so we never have to use violence to resolve conflicts again.”
-Thich Nhat Hanh
Suppose something negative happens, such a flat tire or termites infest your house or whatever. It is just dumb bad luck that you got it, or if it is from another person, they are intentionally doing it to harm/hurt you. If it happens to other people, however, they get a flat tire because they waited too long to get new tires, or they weren’t doing preventative maintenance on their house, or they deserve the reprimand from someone.Read More Is life fair?
if they assume the negative event to be unavoidable then they often feel as though they have no control and instead of feeling calm they feel helpless which engenders hopelessness which leads to depression and isolation. Ask veterans who are having a rough transition and who are also trying to gain needed benefits from the VA (of which is is quite common to have 18 months of waiting and unknown statuses) how they feel. Either the system is trying to screw them and they are very angry, or there is nothing they can do about it and they give up and feel helpless.Read More Negative emotions and moral assessment
Currently I am looking at barriers to treatment for veterans with mental health issues. There are a lot resources available but the number one is stigma. Unfortunately, stigma doesn’t go away with putting up posters, especially if those poster are contrary to the actual values of an organization.Read More Mindmap of a veteran mindset
I was surfing the net the other day and I came upon this story: There was this Hindu who saw a scorpion floundering around in the water. He decided to save it by stretching out his finger, but the scorpion stung him. The man still tried to get the scorpion out of the water, but […]Read More what do you do with a scorpion? (or the nature of the soul)
I’ve downloaded a book recently into my iBooks. The Last Lecture: Legacy Edition and I am just beginning it. It is is a good read thus far but I had to stop for a moment and think about my own dad. You see the author makes the point that he won the parent lottery and […]Read More Parent Lottery