Between eight and ten years ago I regularly went to therapy. I was struggling with two major forces at the time. The first was that my sense of normal, the horizon of my moral landscape, was still that of someone on a deployment. This is to say that in this context there is a survive […]Read More … or should I get a cup of coffee?
I deployed with the Marines in Desert Storm, and with the Oregon Army National Guard in 2004. Today I train and work with veterans. A common image that I see on patches, hats, and so forth is an “infidel”. This is a response to the supposed jihadists in the two countries we’ve fought in recently, […]Read More What do you stand for?
There are sudden floods that destroy communities, fires that ravage countrysides, earthquakes, volcanoes… yes… Oregon has some as you know, and who knows what else! Zombie apocalypse, Justin Bieber concerts, aliens from space, Kardashians in Portland… any number of god-awful events could happen.Read More Embrace the Suck
“Veterans are the light at the tip of the candle, illuminating the way for the whole nation. If Veterans can achieve awareness, transformation, understanding, and peace, they can share with the rest of society the realities of war. And they can teach us how to make peace with ourselves and each other, so we never have to use violence to resolve conflicts again.”
-Thich Nhat Hanh
Suppose something negative happens, such a flat tire or termites infest your house or whatever. It is just dumb bad luck that you got it, or if it is from another person, they are intentionally doing it to harm/hurt you. If it happens to other people, however, they get a flat tire because they waited too long to get new tires, or they weren’t doing preventative maintenance on their house, or they deserve the reprimand from someone.Read More Is life fair?
I read from a variety of sources and it is often the case that someone will write about Positive Psychology as being “focused on positive thoughts” as though thinking positive will make you happy. A cursory glance in our direction could lead the person to assume that our field is concerned with making happy people […]Read More What’s with Positive Psychology?
While attending a week-long training at the library in Medford, Oregon and during a break I was standing in the window, observing the scene across the street. Across the street is a small Italian pizzeria and outside on the sidewalk were two people with a table set up and were offering some paraphernalia. I could […]Read More Walk in this world
We have constrained our values of what is useful and effective within a context of war to also define what is right and wrong outside of war. The harsh necessities of war have given us our moral guidance as human beings and are limit the natural proclivities of our very nature to the basest level imaginable. Great human souls can indeed wage great war, yet war does not make great souls. If it did we would not have the number of veterans who still struggle with life after war as we do today.Read More Warriors: The Feminine Makes Us Stronger
… for a split second. Gripping the tree trunk I slowly stood up. I wouldn’t make my goal of 4 hours, but I wouldn’t quit. I would finish. Perhaps I could still set a new PR (which is 4:09). It wasn’t over yet, neither was I. Though it hurt, though I didn’t know where I was going to get the strength to keep going, I knew that my tank was not yet empty. There was more left and I intended to mine the depths of what I had.Read More Why I Run Marathons
Pagans do not need shepherds. Pagans are not a flock. Pagans do not identify with sheep and are not seeking a god to save them. A common saying among pagans is ‘the gods help those who help themselves’.Read More On being a sheep in a flock; pagans and christians